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The Trust View (Attachment/Detachment)

This part 7 is about the tension (tense holding) that is an opportunity to release some beautiful creativity into the flow of it all. This is about that space between attachment and detachment.

In the midst of this very composition, B.J. and I find ourselves in such an opportune space. For us this space isn’t only about selling a property and moving to a new place; it is about a significant step in how life & living will now look. It is a chance to catch a lot and a time that requires much hold & release.

The early birdsongs were saying it all works together for good, if we but let it. It all works out even if I don’t seem to let it (let go). But if I don’t let it, such becomes a refusal to participate and I miss out on seeing it all unfold. I do not want to miss that, ever!

The Creative Tension (Attachment/Detachment)

When our simplification transition began I realized a difficult tension. In our entire individual and partnered lives neither B.J. or I have lived in any one place as long as we’ve lived here. This is significant. We are not talking just a change, we are talking transition–Major!

This move more than any other from our past has me truly in a space between. I find my mind and heart in a middle, holding past and future. I suppose this middle is the present.

Work among all its abstracts, is actually intimacy, the place where self meets the world. –David Whyte, Consolations

Whyte says so much so briefly about why I write what I write and the way I write to you as a leader. In this 21st Century we need–must have–leaders who lead from the core of self: Trueness.

The need for leadership reminds me of the vision and desire that pulled me into starting this practice: I desire, through the leaders I coach and teach, to influence the space of work in becoming one of abundance and love.

I am attached to all that has gone on before to bring me to this stand, but I cannot hold it in a way keeping me from walking on. Yes, I am drawn forward into a future I cannot control. So I must detach from any expectation too specific to a predetermined outcome; this is always limiting.

To forgive everything is to live the beautiful poetry we each are. Knowing everything belongs is to be open to all that stirs our souls–to be one with it all. Then to see the unfolding becomes a nourished way of being and walking in this world.

Be aware, focused, and loving in your steady walk as a leader.

A Poem at WadingtheStream.com There are Birds There Too

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The Trust View – Desire & Intent

In The Stream I talk of the flow and of the need to stand still in it. In The Path I speak of the steady walk.

The Trust View holds both movement and stillness.

The Trust View is a place you go internally to make balanced-sense of all external experience. This view is metaphorically real when B.J. and I go into the heights nearby and hike a trail leading to a summit; a high point that balances ascent and descent.

At such summit we pause and consciously open to all that can be seen. Without words we find encouragement for the journey to continue.

To see the unfolding is to trust. Put another way, if we don’t trust we will not see. The  Trust View is a place to see, a place to be in the moment of totality. The Trust View is the third note in the rhythm of journey.

The Paradox of Desire & Intent

I am blessed deeply at a refreshing level by those with whom I have the opportunity to commune through this work I’ve been given. I am rich beyond any measure with which I previously dreamed. Such fills me with a clear and flowing sensation known as gratitude.

I was led to this work of encouraging leaders over a lifetime of experience. Each experience of what I loved to do was accompanied by one I didn’t so much love. This is the paradox of experience.

At each point of desire–that something I cannot help but want through my work–I am driven to act by that which seems to wonderfully control me. At each point of intent–what I want for the other through our experience together–I am drawn to persistently encourage in spite of the reality that I cannot control the outcome. This is the paradox of Desire & Intent; the binding-together of passion and purpose.

Gratitude is not a passive response to something we have been given, gratitude arises from paying attention, from being awake in the presence of everything that lives within and without us. –David Whyte, Consolations

In this 21st Century it is important that we experience leaders who desire to live into passion, and intend action with purpose; and find fulfillment in presence–while leading others to the same participation.

To see the unfolding is to stand in the place where observation and participation meet and swirl together, creating the joy of experience, a beautiful blend of being and doing.

Stand first in the presence of your own Desire & Intent, then presently lead us to focus on the story that binds us together, influenced by presence within and presence without.

A Poem at WadingtheStream.com Presence Within & Without

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The Path (Being/Doing)

Now I know the path unfolds before me. Indeed it is not always clearly laid out. It is in being that I have the privilege of seeing, and in balanced doing I expend directed energy to clear the undergrowth.

Sometimes (actually often) I need the collegial love of another to remain both clear and energized to steadily walk the path. This is why I work at maintaining a community of colleagues. We support each other’s balance–our individual holding of creative tension.

Recent conversation in this community caused me to again pause and think about the place to which this work has led me.

The Creative Tension (Being/Doing)

Ric Gonzalez and I are enjoying creating our Podcasts. As we talked about the next one, my mind was on the next person we might engage in a conversation. Ric suggested we hold off scheduling the next third-party engagement and record some more together. The question however was where to take the conversation in the next Podcast.

In between the email exchange with Ric and the talk we had scheduled, I spoke with Mayra Porrata. Mayra is a colleague in this blessed community. As she and I talked–always deep, clear, and beautiful conversation–we got around to the place to which our respective work has led.

In Mayra’s view, my work has led me to the 3Ps on which Ric and I have been focused (Passion – Purpose – Presence). She is not wrong. Subsequently however, it occurred to me that the 3Ps are a How, not the What–to what this work has led. These conversations created the brilliant reminder of the What, the place–Trueness!

It’s that simple.

And the Why behind this What of Trueness is Encouragement. It is this what and why where our Podcasts must continue to focus for The Work of Trueness. How we will do this will come to us–it arrives through the energy committed to what & why.

“There you go.”
Settled.
Something I say
when I know
Being
has informed
Doing

Maybe along with “settled” should be “connected.” This is where being and doing work side-by-side, hand-in-hand, and we find ourselves in the ensuing flow of our best.

Acting on your own Trueness strengthens you in the space of Creative Tension; the balance of internal passion and external purpose. Passion drives us. Purpose draws us. The result is the creative tension of presence–balanced being/doing.

Locked into being only we blindly serve unbalanced emotion. Doing only is to be enslaved by too much thinking. We must hold the two and walk a creative path as we see genuine passion, purpose, and presence that free us for leading.

A Poem at WadingtheStream.com: It Comes Together

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The Path – Life & Living

In my book, Wading the Stream of Awareness, I wrote about how The Stream has been calling to me all my life. It seems the rhythmic flow has always been part of how I see, feel, and hear. Then moving to reside in this beautiful region where I can regularly be with the flow, I finally came to understand the power that has always been present.

When in the stream, brief as the encounter may be, I am completely present. Each wade into such presence strengthens me for the daily walk that is The Path.

It has taken all of me–all my life to this point–to open to the reality of everything belongs. Everything belongs on The Path. The path is where I am learning to journey with paradox in my pack and steadily walk with a staff of non-dual thinking.

The Paradox of Life & Living

Paradox is reality, and always present to teach us how to live without the degrading need to separate.

Life is observation. Living is participation. Life is the energy of internal focus. Living is the energy of external focus. Life must be held then released. In the hold we receive. In the release we give. They are inseparable. In the hold is life and in the release is living.

For too many of her young years, Sarah suffered internally with conditions beyond her control. There is the internal energy of life, and then there is the suffocation of internal struggle; for reasons unknown this was the suffering for Sarah.

I was blessed to meet Sarah because of Sarah.

Like most freelancers, I get messages from people introducing themselves in hopes of selling me some product or service that’s going to make me much more successful. But Sarah’s message was different. It was skillfully crafted and was written to me, not shotgun scatter fired in the false hope of hitting someone.

I tried to ignore it. I couldn’t.

So I met with this passionate young individual and was intrigued by her courageous balance of life and living.

A life must be lived.

Sarah is certainly in possession of everything belongs on the path of her steady walk. Sure, she has had every worldly reason to give up. But she hasn’t. She knows her life is to be lived.

Sarah is a writer. She always has been. It’s now time for the world to know her passion as she creates epic content for her clients–and for herself!

Life is the birth of new ideas and creative, intuitive ways of being. Living is the freeing of such energy into a needy world.

I tell you Sarah’s story to encourage the balance of your own life & living. If anyone could justify a withdrawal into an internal, dark place hidden forever from any and all things external, it’s Sarah. But for her, it’s the binding-together of observation and participation that is building her impact in this world.

How thankful I am that Sarah selected me to be a part of her journey–her path of Life & Living.

A Poem at WadingtheStream.com: A Life Must Be Lived

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The Stream (Stillness/Flow)

Stillness/Flow is the creative tension in the paradox of Hold & Release.

In part 2 we stepped into the stream. There we continue to understand its particular paradox of power. In this part we consider the reality of tension that is in-between two seemingly opposite truths. The tension is creative because standing still in such movement is the only way we begin to see.

As I am being taught, when I am attempting control it is on some external issue or some internal matter that I just want to be other than what it really is.

Reality: The tension is always there.
Reality: The tension is creatively free only as we no longer have a need to label.

“The world is afraid of reconciliation. We prefer to live in a world of black and white where we create and maintain enemies, because that keeps our own group together. … Our human nature has trapped us in certain positions that have a degree of culture-forming logic to them but overall are simply untrue.” –Richard Rohr

This from Rohr is a reminder to me; to be deeply thankful and presently grateful for the fading need within to label and set apart what is naturally one.

The Creative Tension (Stillness/Flow)

It occurs to me that George was firmly focused on the flow. Our call was eight months after the business case/simulation of which I was privileged to be a part. This was one component in an effort to train and equip technical experts with consultative skills.

I asked him how this was going all these months later. “Aggravating” was his response. It seems the recipients of George’s good intentions were not progressing as he had envisioned, or hoped. As I listened, and asked further questions, he began to dig a little deeper into what he might yet do. His questions of me were about tools or resources he might leverage.

As I’ve learned wading the stream, I must be very aware of the flow without giving it my entire focus. In order to remain sure of foot in the current, and find a place to stand, I must focus on the bottom.

Finally, I knew it was time to give George a bit of encouragement. I set it up by stating that he didn’t need another’s program, and hopefully brought it to stillness by saying, “George, you can do this.”

Attempts at control throw us out-of-balance, causing us to see stillness and flow as a contradiction (either/or). The only control I, in reality, possess is my now experiential knowledge that I have no control–and more importantly that I do not want such (at least not any more). This stills me in the flow.

I am not part of the flow by being swept away. The flow is experiential as I find my place to stand in the middle and cast for what is important–and real.

The only way to love the flow, and in the flow love, is to stand still.

The Stream–a necessary note in the rhythm–is a place to fully be. It is a moving reminder, flowing around your stillness, that you are part of something larger.

It includes you–Your Trueness.

A Poem at WadingtheStream.com: The Reality of Experience

On the Creeper Trail

The Stream – Hold & Release

Letting go into trust (The Flow) is a challenge daily−and moment-by-moment. It is a challenge you must face with courage. This does not mean that no action is taken. Quite the contrary … but, each action must emanate from a contemplative, soulful place built and maintained in the moments with the flow.

A secret to authentic leadership in this 21st Century:
“Ultimately, we perceive the coherence of the world as we extend forgiveness−to ourselves and to others.” −William Isaacs, Dialogue

Faith, as I am continually reminded, is less what you desire to be at some future, perceived point, and more about who you are now−and in the flow.

Those who know me well get what I mean when I talk of The Flow. For me, it is the flow-of-it-all; and this oneness is that about which I write:

The Stream
The Path
The Trust View

The Flow will lead you to simplicity−and you will better understand, and hold, your service in this world; a service simplified by your Hold & Release into the freeing flow.

In this part 2 of The Rhythm of Journey, I focus on The Stream. With each note in this rhythm there are two topics I want us to consider together: Paradox and Creative Tension.

The Paradox of Hold & Release

The paradox of the stream is Hold & Release. Paradox is a breath, complete only with both the inhale and the exhale. There is spirited balance in the art of Hold & Release.

As a leader in this 21st Century, it is imperative that you learn to consciously hold what is most important while releasing any expectation of control. Even though you may not have learned it explicitly, there is an implicit pull to know as one the requirements you feel from both internal and external forces.

In our leadership, paradox is a perpetual reality. And once you know paradox as a binding-together, you can then learn in each opportunity as you hold such long enough to see truth in the binding.

In only our second coaching session, Kaye and I opened a conversation of paradox. One of her core values is that of Connection. As with any of us, Kaye at times focuses on this value to a degree where, if not conscious of spirited balance of Communication and Connection, she can find herself reacting in the shadows of authenticity.

As we talked about a specific situation, she began to hold together the two truths of communication and connection. Now Kaye can know the freedom of a binding-together as she more consciously leads from an authentic middle.

Holding the two truths long enough, you then know the reality of releasing what you learned into the more fully formed truth … which is the living flow-of-it-all.

As Trueness evolves into your living performance you are transformed; interestingly into who you’ve always been.

A Poem at WadingtheStream.com: In-Between Time

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Introduction to The Rhythm of Journey

I must be near The Stream, with the stream consistently. The stream is in me. And when needed−which is quite often−I hike to the Trust View to see and remember that all I Hold & Release into the flow is part of a larger reality of Life & Living.

It was an early Spring morning when I stepped into self-induced worries around things that do not require such energy draining attention. In those moments I decided to own the fact that I must learn to truly let go. How? How indeed.

At that moment I had a heart thought:
“Just be grateful.”

So that day, I simply walked in gratitude. After the day of walking as such, I found myself journaling a prayer of sorts:

Let gratitude go deep
deep into the heart of who I am
deep into the soul of self
of others
of everything.

The next day I simply took action instead of wasting energy on any worry. The doing was what I knew to be good and right in my being.

For a while now I’ve been very attentive to the rhythm for my own Life & Living.
~ Forgive Everything
~ Everything Belongs
~ See the Unfolding

Forgive Everything gets me down to The Stream where I wade into the flow and mindfully place things (including those self-induced worries).
Everything Belongs is The Path−my evolving journey as I learn continually to honor paradox (a practice in leading with a non-dual mindset).
See the Unfolding; as I place all in the flow and let go of the need to judge/separate, I rise to the height of the Trust View.

The Rhythm of Journey

The Stream
Hold & Release …
 The Paradox (Stillness/Flow)
The Path
Life & Living     … The Paradox (Being/Doing)
The Trust View
Desire & Intent … The Paradox (Attachment/Detachment)

Introducing this to you, my reader, has been a significant challenge. I hope you will stay with me as I continue through the next six pieces.

I desire that you know your rhythm. My intent is that these pieces of writing from me will take you into conscious presence with the rhythm of your journey; and that you will see such rhythm as the energy source for your Life & Living as a leader in this 21st Century.

A Poem at WadingtheStream.com: A Walk in Gratitude

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