Please do not be afraid to love as a leader. Hopefully you entered the realm of leadership because of love. If not; well it is not too late.
Your Desire & Intent as a leader is your love expressed. Now live it.
Set your goals in a very specific manner aligned with your values. Then allow your Desire & Intent to guide your strategic action.
In other words, express your Desire & Intent (this is your commitment) and then courageously and confidently act on this commitment.
This is your love as a leader.