I’m part of a small writing group. Our next assignment is to write about “What do I want?”
My thoughts usually bounce around a while before I set out to write anything. I’ve been thinking a lot about how I was raised. I got the definite impression that what I want is not good. My dad used to tell me, “Go around the side of the house, want in one hand and s*@# in the other and see which one gets full first.” He was a natural teacher.
So I got the perception, somehow, that what I want is not good. Then I studied with William Bridges in his book Creating You and Company. He took me through an exercise where he asked me to make a list of wishes. I did so. I let that stand for a while as suggested. Later in another chapter he had me go back to that list and identify those things where I was willing to do something to get them. I did so.
These things he called desires.
That exercise was the beginning of freedom from the judgment of my wants – or more appropriately – my desires. In The Journey of Desire, John Eldredge told me that my desires are good – they were put there for a reason.