My thanks to a Client/Colleague who allowed me to post this excerpt from some of his thoughts:
Fill up a glass 3/4 of the way with water. That leaves you 1/4 of the possible containment power of the vessel you are filling. Fill the remaining 1/4 with lemon juice. Mmm … lemon-flavored water. Nice. Empty the glass. Fill it with 1/2 water, 1/2 lemon juice. Mmm … almost like lemonade! Empty the glass again. Fill it with 1/4 water and 3/4 lemon juice. Mmm … if you added sugar, you’d have lemonade!When my glass is full with 3/4 water and 1/4 lemon juice, there is no more room for lemon juice. Full is full … thank you Yogi Bera. No matter how much you tell me you like the taste of the lemon juice, no more is getting in that glass. In order to get more lemon juice, I need less water. In order to have less water, I have to make the conscious decision to fill my glass differently …I am that glass.
The water is what I do every day, what I have done every day for the past 30…60…90 days. The lemon juice is the stuff I do that’s really, really awesome. The water is just what it is: good or bad, it’s the set of my daily behaviors. If I want a different outcome, then I must make different choices. If we switch our frame of reference from one that focuses on negative behaviors to one that focuses on positive behaviors, then I think we will be in a position to identify the right thing: the stuff we want to do more of. The key to making that conversation worthwhile is identifying the behaviors we want to STOP. We have to empty our glasses of water so we can get more of that lemon juice in there.”Common sense” is not the same as “common sense put into action.” … focus on strengths more than on weaknesses. All kinds of incredible things happen in people’s minds when you change that approach. I’ve seen it in my kids just as surely as I’ve seen it in my direct reports. Think about it.