Move Past those Difficult Conversations

I was leading my Client through a dialogue to illustrate the powerful difference between the words difficult and crucial as they relate to conversations.

I asked him who he was focusing on when he labeled a conversation as difficult. Like everyone else I ask this question, he got it right when he replied, “Me.” I told him that he never had to have another difficult conversation … if he chose to make a simple language shift.

That shift would involve a change from seeing a conversation as difficult to seeing it as crucial. I then asked him what that said to him. He then proceeded to outline a flow with the two words that I thought was nothing less than insightful.

Difficult is … unpleasant – not enjoyable.
Crucial is … needed – required.

Difficult is … about me.
Crucial is … important – critical.

Difficult is … avoidance.
Crucial is … skillful confrontation.

You too never have to have another ‘difficult’ conversation – not if you follow my Client’s insight.

For an excellent resource, read Crucial Conversations.

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About Jeff Brunson

In this whirling 21st Century the individual needs to embrace the authentic self and confidently leverage the energy and power found there. As we entered the 21st Century, I became more concerned about what leaders like you needed for successful influence and personal fulfillment. As we move deeper into this challenging 21st Century, I’m more convinced than ever that the core of my work is in helping individual leaders remember who they are − a trueness. It is about confidence found in your authenticity.

One thought on “Move Past those Difficult Conversations

  1. Jeff,

    I love to read things like this. They seem to be so easy but we don’t think of it ourselves. This helped me put difficult conversations in to perspective and now they are crucial.

    Thank you,
    Julie

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