“It’s not how you feel that determines how you act; it’s how you choose to act that determines how you feel.” I’m paraphrasing this as I cannot remember the source. I was impressed however by the truth in this quote and how it spoke to confidence as an outcome and an impact.
Our confidence is most often associated with how we feel in ourselves. Confidence is not assertiveness, boldness or other mistaken identities or mislabels. Certain behaviors and characteristics, observed in and of themselves, do not necessarily indicate the presence of confidence which is indeed internal to the individual.
Maybe the more accurate meaning of the quote speaks to the confidence created by the choices that emanate from deep within each of us. Maybe it’s the energy of our voice combined with the conscious application of our personal values that produces the courage to act.
If this is so, then courage, driven by our own unique authenticity, has to make us feel good about ourselves – and this builds our confidence.
Voice + Values = Validation