I was born blue. My mother once said that as she explained the asthma with which I struggled. I’ve always assumed the asthma was the reason I spent so much of my developmental years in the presence of women. In recent years as I’ve occasionally indulged in a bit of retrospection, I’ve wondered how much my personality had to do with it – meaning: I was not the typical little boy of the time and therefore not understandable to most of the men folk. The fact remains that I was around women a lot; my mother, grandmother and Lucy who helped out around the house.
I was born during my dad’s farming years. The center of the operation was dairy cattle. He literally worked 20 hours a day. My grandfather had retired and spent a lot of time with my brother four years my senior. They fished. They fished a lot. I didn’t like to fish. (It was many years later before I fell in love with fishing). When guilt – or whatever motivated them – made them take me along, I just played which sometimes included throwing rocks in the water. As you might guess this is not something someone who is fishing appreciates.
My lack of appreciation for fishing combined with my illness kept me close to home the majority of the time in those younger years. As I look back, I find it hard to be regretful of this fact. I actually see this all as a wonderful blessing. Of course this time had much to do with who I became; and I’m proud of that.
From that younger time to now, women have been a powerful influence in both my development and happiness. The most consistent people I’ve had the pleasure of knowing have mostly been women. By consistent I mean steadfast, open-minded, caring and loving in all one does. It is by the grace of God that the most consistent of all is my wife.
My wife operates from her core in a natural, effortless manner – leveraging her innate strengths as she applies her values and voice in all her actions. She lives authentically. She lives purposefully.
While rooted in intent and purpose, authenticity grows and is fruitful in the world as you live purposefully. To live with purpose requires you to be at peace with who you are. You are wired the way you are in part because of purpose. You act on purpose because you’ve accepted who you are and have become conscious of how this shows up in the world.
Authenticity spreads the impact of your purpose as you leverage your strengths with confidence. There is peace in living authentically – free of the effects of judgment. Authenticity externally validates your internal purpose.