A colleague – new to his franchise – needed an ear as he contemplated his focus; his personal brand. He asked for some of my attention. I was glad to respond with some time and energy.
This request came as I had just wrapped up the review process with the copyeditor of my book, and while I waited for the feedback from my advance readers. I told my colleague that completing my manuscript had thrown me into yet another transition.
There we sat, two colleagues each in his transition brought on by very different circumstances. While the circumstances might be different, the reasons were similar.
Upon hearing of my sense of transition, my colleague (who sought comfort from me) spoke some very confident, comforting words to me; “You are where you need to be.”
He said this to me prior to giving him that time and energy in response to his call for assistance. He is smart. He cares.
In light of the similar reasons for our respective transitions, we shared as friends – trusted colleagues. As friends will do, my colleague offered me assistance for my transition; a particular version of a personal development profile. The results of this profile told me I was experiencing anxiety in the present. This I knew.
What I didn’t know was why. The profile summary spoke of how I define myself based on how well I follow my own internal guidance system … right again.
At present, it said, I was unclear as to one of my primary roles in life. Right yet again – and I didn’t know this. It further explained by saying, “Due to this, you are probably experiencing higher levels of anxiety than normal because you feel obligated to follow your internal rules or guides, but are not sure of the best role to allow you to do that.”
So, I knew I was in transition. I knew of the anxiety. I am aware of that internal guide. And now I have language that explains the current anxiety.
Now, thanks to my friend, I know what I need to allow in the transition; to identify what it is about the role that is giving me trouble.
It is a challenge, but it is where I need to be.