Skill 4 – Part C: Collegial Connections

The composition of this section was begun before an evening meal with colleagues. Our collegial gathering began eight years prior with a small number of freelance spirits in need of each others company.

Like career connections, creating connections in the collegial arena must be done intentionally and confidently. This gathering to which I belong was founded with no distracting structure and one singular purpose; collegial support.

Anne-Marie is an elegant spirit who became a vital part of this support group. At that recent evening gathering, I shared my present activities in marketing my book and in attempting to move business forward in a challenging time. The next day I made a post about slow business, high stress, and the resulting visit to a mountain trail to relieve some of the stress. Anne-Marie read this post.

Combining the brief post with what she heard at the dinner gathering, she sent me the following:

… over the years I have gone through several down periods, due to the economy, cut backs, etc.  Every time business was slow I would think “this is it, I am out of business, I must have done something wrong, did I make a mistake somewhere,” and I would worry so much.  When business picked up, I would be reassured that this slowdown was not my fault and I would be so angry with myself and thinking “why didn’t I take advantage of that time to do the things I don’t have time to do when I am busy? ”
In a way it is good to have down times, it gives a chance to regroup, rethink, revitalize, reinforce, renew….  Down times are part of the plan to improve one’s business.
On Monday you told me that you are thinking of ways to contact your clients, and that you are contacting them to remind them that you are there, you are also marketing your book, so you are doing everything right. 

A collegial connection is someone you have asked into your network because of who you are. This connection has been invited because of mutual need. You must be conscious of what you need as you build your collegial network. This is not selfish; not if you approach this part of your network from a dedication to growth and development – progression that makes you better for those you lead, influence, and serve. This is not about perfection; it is about simply getting better.

Collegial connections form in the light of mutual contribution. Anne-Marie was invited to be a part of our collegial gathering by one of the founders. Through mutual contribution, we have formed a collegial bond. To me, Anne-Marie is representative of the blessings that flow from a confidence and trust in the spirit of attraction.

For more like this and the developing series around the 7 skills, see: 21st Century Leadership Skills

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About Jeff Brunson

In this whirling 21st Century the individual needs to embrace the authentic self and confidently leverage the energy and power found there. As we entered the 21st Century, I became more concerned about what leaders like you needed for successful influence and personal fulfillment. As we move deeper into this challenging 21st Century, I’m more convinced than ever that the core of my work is in helping individual leaders remember who they are − a trueness. It is about confidence found in your authenticity.

2 thoughts on “Skill 4 – Part C: Collegial Connections

  1. Great piece! And so true for many of us – regardless of whether we are independent or not. The idea that during slow times we worry about how to not be ‘slow’ and then during ‘fast times’ we worry about how we should slow down! Financial pressures, stress, concern that we are doing everything we should / could be doing …. the slow times give us way to much time on our hands to think of these things. I was talking to a friend of mine who is my ‘coach’ in many ways and while we do not talk often – she is always the one who can quickly get to the heart of the matter for me. I was bemoaning the fact that right now I feel I have so little control over ‘stuff.’ With Dolph away, no firm job in the offing …. she asked me “What are you doing to stay ‘whole’? I said “Well, we cannot really afford for me to do “x” because we are recouping from the past 3 years.” To which she responded “What are you recouping?” “Money” I said. “And what happens when you recoup the money? Will that make YOU whole?” OK – well THERE was a poser for me. So my question for you, Jeff, is…. what makes you whole? I am betting it is not money, fame, book sales….. If you can find the answer to that question – the slow times will be less about find the ‘fast’ and more about enjoying the ride. 🙂 J

  2. Judy, I’ve been thinking since your comment … which I very much appreciate. I’ve been contemplating your question, “… what makes you whole?”

    My intuitive response – even after much thought (and reading David Whyte) – is the still the same; Freedom.

    Becky and I are have begun a mission to simplify. For me, to simplify means to ensure consistent freedom.

    I thought the homepage of this site explained my definition of freedom well:

    Thanks for your ongoing friendship … and all your caring support.

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