Others and You (A Personal Reflection on Reach)

Influence radiates from the core of who we are. For influence to extend as far as possible, confidence at the core is essential. Without confidence, you cannot expect to influence others.

Confidence without empathy, compassion, and love is called arrogance. Arrogance radiates from the core, as well, and it is the destructive antithesis of influence. Influence must be a positive force. To think of “negative influence” is to tarnish the essence of influence. Arrogance is a blackhole sucking good will out of the relationship. It hurts. It destroys. It repels. It saps energy. There can be little to no progress and growth within the event horizon of arrogance.

The beauty of influence is that it is an extension of the good will inside of one person directed at others. It is a nurturing force. It stimulates interaction. It promotes growth. It encourages collaboration. It heals. It bonds. It draws positive things together. It is one of the manifestations of love within the vast net of human connections.

The event horizon of arrogance has limits. It is the distance from the edge of the sphere of corruption to the corrupt center. The distance can be measured. The space beyond that is untouchable to arrogance. Influence, however, is passed on from the loving core of one human being to the loving core of another. In this way, influence is immeasurable. It’s playground is everything beyond the reach of the feeble sphere of arrogance.

Let those who would remain closed and embrace arrogance maintain their myopic, short-sighted focus. The reach of your story is limited only by your capacity to open up to love. Look farther.

As influence grows, reach expands.

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8 thoughts on “Others and You (A Personal Reflection on Reach)

  1. “The event horizon of arrogance has limits.” I love this metaphor. I love how you describe arrogance as you set up the comparison to true, loving influence; and lead us to understand that as influence grows, reach expands.

    Thanks for writing on my blog. I’m proud to call you friend!

  2. That sentence “confidence without empathy, compassion, and love is called arrogance” – that is SO true. I’ve experienced that many times in the medical community. Not long ago I said to a physician, “You know, arrogance does not equal competence.” The sentence you wrote is a “writer-downer.” 🙂

  3. Very inspiring post. I love the line, “The beauty of influence is that it is an extension of the good will inside of one person directed at others.” I think that sums it up so eloquently.

  4. This is a really thought-provoking post–I hadn’t really thought about how incompatible arrogance is from influence before. Thanks, Ric (and Jeff for sharing).

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