As Brian Whetten teaches his clients, you market self and service in this 21st Century by Giving. I have been focused on this approach for 11 years.
Ironically, the most genuine, authentic forms of giving require the greatest level of detachment. When we are emotionally invested in a pre-conceived outcome, then our act of giving is more about our own feelings and desires than it is about the benefits to the other person. If you can remove emotional attachment to the outcome, then the outcome actually changes. The outcome is no longer the observable reaction of the individual but the actual impact of the gift given. −Ric Gonzalez
Mentor as Teacher/Learner of Experience
(Skill 5: Giving)
Here is my creative tension that is sometimes hard to hold; giving as an elder while still having to make a living in this challenging climate.
We no longer need to change or adjust other people to be happy ourselves. Ironically, we are more than ever before in a position to change people−but we do not need to−and that makes all the difference. −Richard Rohr, Falling Upward
Where am I in this eldership? Richard again says it best; “We do what we are called to do and then try to let go of the consequences.”
Mentee as Learner/Teacher in Experience
(Skill 5: Discovery and Cultivating Confidence)
Help us develop the confidence to assume increasing levels of responsibility. Give us the freedom to create our own path and the support to make the story our own. When the time is right, give us the support needed to close one chapter of our story and begin a new chapter. Realize that because of our strong commitment to the networks we create, it will be difficult for us to find the courage to leave that behind and begin making our own vision a reality.
To give is to be in a joyful space. No matter your generation you have something to give now. Be present with your gift and allow us the gift of your presence.