The origin of the word tension is about stretching. Like other words in our language, we’ve forgotten original source and attributed only a positive or only a negative connotation. We are so often the sole point of supply to the negative scripts that haunt our doing and suspend our being, the ability to be present.
As part of ongoing introspection, I have questioned a few things. One of those was the energy behind, and within, my writing. When you’ve been doing something within a proven, stable process for a long time, it is a tense space to open to such questioning.
In this introspection, this standing in the flow of Trueness, I continue to connect more deeply with who I am, what I do, why I do it. It seems my writing to leaders has become much more about writing to the leader within each of us. Such a shift has had its impact on what I’m saying, doing, and who I’m being with the individuals I work with as a coach.
Being the person we are means enjoying the gift of our own creation before and beyond all desire, all expectations, all demands.
–John Main, The Way of Unknowing
Your voice embodies wholeness from an original source. As my friend Joy says about things like voice, “It’s the energy that picked me.” Voice is proof of your being. It is an energy that stretches you. Your voice is worthy of trust. In fact, not trusting voice is certain suppression of your resonance and power in this world. This variety of tension is something you definitely do not want.
We do have power in this world; not a power over another, but power to be there for the other, for her/his true being. While possible to encourage another without the new confidence of loving one’s self, such encouragement can only scrape the surface for another’s confidence, their way of being in this world. This only leads to misguided expectations that corrode relationship.
Tension is a mystery because we think it is something from which we need to be free, something we must dissolve, or avoid at all costs. Instead, we must first grasp tension as the healthful stretch intended, and then consciously step into the middle full of creative tautness and secure joy.
What is it that has taken me to this place to consider and remember this thing? It is a commitment to be present with what is, and to more consistently honor my voice in each interaction. Love is my voice, and the strength of my voice is encouragement. So, for one thing, I am being much more vocal and courageous about sharing this, and doing so with and for each person.
Your voice has been there in you since the beginning. Hold its tension gracefully and release unique resonance into a world desperate for the confluence of our stories, and our ability to be present with one another.
Each wonderful, we are,
an engaging story,
for need in the world,
to be told.
In the ordinary, is power,
To Feel before and beyond
any limiting expectation.
To Hear our own resonant
capacity to be present.
To See the mysterious ease
of everyday things.
The abundance of mystery,
No longer by narrowness be,
misguided by and into judgment.
Permission, allow me to give,
relieving you of the stress,
attempting to create
what you already hold.
A voice from the beginning, free,
resonant strength limitless,
authentically equipped to speak,
gracefully, in the transient flow.
In the space of everyday,
a story to be told,
you are, I am.