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And in the telling itself, a living performance,
into and through our own soul
we are transformed …
we become who we are.

−verse 7 of Transforming Trueness (Repose)

Your voice is your brand of love. Your brand of love is yours. No one has to have the same purpose and brand as you, and you do not have to have the same purpose and brand as another. If such is so, then it is a happy accident.

No one can judge your purpose and brand. Well, they can proffer some form of narrow opinion, but what does that matter? It is what it is, and it is good and right for you to live your love. It is good and right for you to lead from love.

The world needs us to come alive as individuals.
The world needs our truth,
our authentic confidence,
and our love.

Is your voice flowing in your work? Are you doing work that frees your voice?

Shannon’s interest was stirring something; the shadow was being disturbed by rhythmic streaks of light. The intermittent beams were energy determined to form Shannon’s luminous presence in all she would do.

Twelve years after our first engagement in coaching, and two companies later for her, we connected again for her growth. When we first met, working at the same company, Shannon was experienced and serving in a legal role. She had a deep interest in the personal development work my team and I were doing at the time.

Voice, your unique resonance, is the clearest statement of your purpose and brand of love as a leader.

Generosity, giving fully in and through your work, flows freely because of your voice. Voice consciousness opens your eyes to the interest to energy connection−work that is real to you, and if real to you, generosity flows into the light of who you are.

In such real work, those you lead, influence, and serve benefit from your purpose and brand of love. Voice consciousness shows you real work and how you do what you choose to do. Even if particular pieces of work are assigned to you, you are free to choose how you do it: voice suppressed or voice full and engaged.

Shannon honored her connection of interest to energy. Her voice resonates in her work, work that is real to her. Like you and me, Shannon’s voice sometimes falters. But once generosity is brought out of the shadow, handed over to your voice, and allowed conscious flow, no one and no thing can hold back the power of your love.

Shannon’s love is spoken in her statement of Desire & Intent:
“The core of what you do is brought out more fully. Your real self is having an impact in your conscientious leadership. You know the right thing to do and you confidently approach doing it.”

In Trueness you are free to love us in the balance of your strengths applied. In work you know as real, there is no priority higher than that of your love.

Choosing resonance is itself freeing. The darkest corners of shadow say love makes us weak. The truth of the light is it’s the lack of love that weakens us. As I’ve said for a long time, and will continue for a bit longer, “It’s okay to love your work, and in your work, love.”

A poem for your work: Yes, It Matters

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For your Trueness
holds your soul well
while you free voice
in the story you must tell.

−verse 6 of Transforming Trueness (Repose)

What I love about storytelling is wholeness. In my experience, stories have been shared with me to bring clarity and wholeness to a particular situation. This is how I use stories in my one-on-one work with leaders. I tell stories directed at the need of the individual’s integrity.

I tell stories to assist the individual in feeling, hearing, and seeing his/her own truth and reality with more clarity−opening the individual further to personal impact and potential.

In and with stories, I love to show an individual how to apply the true self in a specific situation. These are not necessarily stories told by me, but more the stories I encourage out of the individual herself. I love hearing the light in her voice when she realizes she can handle the situation in a more authentic, skilled manner for a better outcome, one leaving everyone whole and her feeling good about herself.

Christie wanted to improve the relationship with her boss. At the beginning of the coaching session where she set that goal, she asked me to help her create a process to confront him and begin the focused process. I told her I would help her create such a process.

I lied. You see, I knew I could not help her create such a process, but I knew I could help her find that process right there inside where the process already existed.

One of my grandfather’s wise sayings was, “Asked-for advice is seldom heeded. Unasked-for advice is never heeded.”

To begin the journey to the process Christie desired, I begin to ask her questions about her boss, to learn more about his story. As Christie unfolded his story to me, I could hear so much compassion, care, and concern.

The focus once completely on her, when she first told me about her frustrations with her boss, began to shift fully on him, with a powerful level of understanding in play; she was forgiving her original assumptions.

She didn’t even know when it happened, when the process she needed unfolded in her story. When she was done answering my questions, and telling the engaging story, I simply recounted the 3-step process she had asked me to help her find, a process vibrantly alive in the story she had told.

The integrity of her process was undergirded by the power of focus that had come from her voice in play as she told the story. Her voice of Positive, Open Intent was flowing in the telling.

Everything can be taken to the flow, for whatever reason. If taken there with a commitment to hold and release, whatever is placed in the flow will be free to do what is good and right down stream, whether this is seen or not by the one who releases in love.

A poem for your work: Narrative Soul

Surprising it may seem
and so surprising it is;
but deceitful it cannot be.

−verse 5 of Transforming Trueness (Repose)

Trust has to begin within.

Sitting down to write, I often find myself in the sludge of thoughts, wanting to write, but not knowing where to start. The one thing that always seems to calm the whirling thinking and open me to the pen and page is one particular song, which I select on my phone and play through the ear buds, often over and over as the words start to come: Love is the Answer, by Todd Rundgren.

With love being my voice, the lyrics and music open me to trust the flow, and the moment with what needs to be written. It is almost always a wonderful surprise.

A Story
My desire to write goes back quite far, at least to the time when I wrote the essay on work when in elementary school. I didn’t know why I wanted to write. Once I was in high school, there were more assignments requiring one to write.

I remember high school English, getting many writing assignments, and seeing the less than average score on most of them when the teacher handed them back, always in an impersonal fashion. I didn’t know if I just couldn’t write, she just didn’t like my writing, or some combination thereof. Consequently, when I got to college, found myself in American Literature, I dreaded the first writing assignment.

The time, of course, came. Sandra Boyd was her name. I shall never forget her, my teacher. She graded that first assignment and the time came to hand them back to us. She went to the first seat in each row and handed the graded essays to the first person to pass back, except on my row.

She brought my paper to me directly, placed it in front of me (I saw the A at the top), and said, “I can’t wait to read what you write next.”

It was many more years before I made the commitment to not only write regularly, but to become diligent in the process to become better at the craft. To help in the matter, I was blessed to find Pam and Susan and we formed our own writing group for practice.

One day, several years into our time together, we were doing our normal thing; writing a piece from an impromptu assignment and then reading to each other what had been written. They shared something with me that became a gift of energy leading me to find focus in my writing.

I had just read my piece, where I had shared a story. They said, “We like it when you tell us a story. Write more stories for us.”

I hope I’ve done a good job since then to keep my commitment to Pam and Susan to write more stories.

A poem for your work: Encouragement is Love

And the deepest of reality,
an original endowment,
is the intricate truth
of who one really is.

−verse 4 of Transforming Trueness (Repose)

How freeing it was for me to learn how to be a neutral facilitator. At first, such learning was about being more skilled. Then, I heard a rule opening me to the learning, and subsequently teaching me to pay attention: It’s not about me; it’s all about them.

This guiding rule of facilitation also helped open me to my cardinal rule:

That the individual be encouraged.

It was the Thanksgiving week, and my wife and I flew to her parent’s home so we could then drive them to Texas to visit family. I had not been to my father-in-law’s home place in over a quarter of a century. So, since the last time I had seen Keith, he had unfolded a full career and was 500 days from his qualified, official retirement.

I was able to spend quality time with the family members there as several of them worked together on improvements around the farm. Throughout the weekend, I was amazed at Keith’s ability to pay attention to every detail of a conversation and bring tidbits of information from songs, movies, and television to enliven the narrative.

On the last evening before we drove back, Keith and I were standing outside with two other cousins in conversation. I told him what I had observed and I then offered up a challenge for him to think about how he could use his ability to pay attention for what was next in his life and living once those 500 days were up.

The most loving thing I know how to do is to encourage another human spirit. Encouragement is a gift that was given to me. I suppose it was encoded in my DNA. My acts of encouragement are undergirded by my life mission to love, serve, and understand.

It is important to be aware of strengths and the accompanying pitfalls in the shadow of each.

Pitfalls, and a Living Methodology
In my life mission, I’ve been well served by becoming conscious of these specific traps:

Love: When I focus on whether or not love is being shown back to me.

Serve: When I give and falsely expect something (anything) in return.

Understand: When this becomes a ‘need to understand’ focused on me versus an action given and released.

Judy (my coach) has been an integral part of my evolution and ever-unfolding journey. At a time when I was feeling another transition in the work, and further pain in continuing transformation, she challenged me to focus on changing my perception at my wonderful stage of life’s journey.

After quite a bit of contemplation, here was my commitment in light of my gather-give-grow methodology:

Gather: I will more consciously work to live more simply. I will work harder to care for my wife and myself first, so we can better care for others. I will ease up on what I expect from others. I will continue to keep my commitment to encourage no matter what.

Give: I will become presently conscious of what I can do, do that, and release the action into the flow.

Grow: I will participate more in conscious being. This one I will gladly figure out as I go.

As we were saying goodbye to family members one by one at the farm, Keith approached me. With a bit of emotion showing forth in his eyes and voice, he said, “Thank you for the encouragement.”

A poem for your work: It’s Why I’m Here

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For each transition
successive will be
when committed one is
to truth and reality.

−verse 3 of Transforming Trueness (Repose)

The official name of my work and business was conceived two years before beginning actual practice, but the name itself, BasicApproach, represents a laboratory. Practice has been a space for experimenting with what, in truth and reality, is my basic approach.

The basic has evolved into Trueness, undergirded by my voice of love.
The approach has matured into application of such Trueness, my presence with another as I leverage the strength, and gift, of encouragement.

Why do you do what you do?

I do what I do because I love it. I love the creative process of learning and converting such knowledge into practice; a practice of what I do that is then taken by the individual and converted into her/his own authentic practice. This honors my own living methodology of gather, give, and grow (a methodology born in the intersection of my desire and my intent).

Voice as Purpose
Commitment is a fascinating power available to us.

Be warned: once you make a commitment, you place into motion a series of transitions. You need to know that each one is providentially designed to take you deeper into the reality of your Trueness.

Love is my voice as it was given to me. I’ve come to believe love is the basis for each person’s voice in the world. Encouragement is my purpose/brand in the world; how my love is expressed and lived out loud. Love is the firm foundation I can trust. It is becoming my place to stand. Encouragement is the lever I hold in my middle stand that can, and will, move the world. Such gives me purpose. Purpose is interest, and interest creates energy.

Personal purpose brings you into a new confidence. When confidence is low, or missing, look for missing purpose. When you are true and clear, we are led individually to open to, and see, the collective possibilities; a collective future vision begins to become, for us, more organized in the present.

We need a vision to stand by and give support to our actions. I know this sounds like purpose, but it is not necessarily so. Purpose is first individual, and when purpose propels us through our own connective cycle, we then stand firm in the middle and share a vision with you.

We are transformed by an ever-evolving awareness. Our confidence is deepened in action that is connective−bringing together the clarity of application with purpose. Action that is connective is so because it flows in a rhythmic cycle.

Purpose is the foundation of all vision of impact.

If you are the leader everyone looks to for the vision, don’t let them down. If you are one looking to a leader for the vision, give your all to assure clarity and connection. Then together, we can give our individual energy for collective impact.

Together we are transformed, driven by the truth of individual purpose and drawn into the reality of a collective vision.

A poem for your work: Courage Elemental

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Suffering it may seem
and so suffering it is;
but impairing it is not. .

−verse 2 of Transforming Trueness (Repose)

Passion evokes passion.

We define passion by typically thinking of enthusiasm. However, the original definition of passion included suffering (the cost along the journey).

I was 25 years old, we had been married a bit over 3 years, and our daughter was 6 months old. I had just completed a very successful year as a life insurance agent, achieving the ‘rookie-of-the-year’ award, and other accolades in the territory of which I was a part. It was also the year my parents divorced after 30 years of marriage.

As if this was all not enough for one young man, I believed I was being “called” into the ministry. I made a decision that was to change everything. I applied to a theological seminary and was accepted. We sold our first house; I quit my selling job, we packed up, gathered our baby daughter, and headed toward that seminary.

In the process of all this, I had a disturbing realization that this was not the right time for this decision. We made it as far as my hometown, about three hours northeast of the seminary destination. I quickly became confused to the point of despair. We rented a place and decided to stay a while so I could figure out this confusing matter.

I can still feel the pain of my confusion all these years later. More than anything at the time, it seems I had gotten caught up in the reaction of others to my original thoughts of ministry. It felt good to have others be so ‘proud’ of me. Their communication of this pride, and my connection to what was being said, served ego more than my authenticity, I suppose. When I realized (or sensed) this, the agony was great.

Since consciously launching into this work that has chosen me, I’ve often looked back on that time. From what I see, I continue to be deeply grateful that we did not make it to the seminary campus. For you see, I firmly believe that I would not have been where this work could find me had I followed through on that decision.

The ensuing years, with a treasure of experience, prepared me for now; the release into the flow of who I am in what it is I really do.

Acting on my own Trueness brought me the privilege of the spirits I’m blessed to give to, and from whom I receive so much. Like me, your unique Desire & Intent is a tangible objective important to the balance called for and called out by your own words.

I’m loving what I do now because I know what I bring to the table, confident in my strengths and my authenticity. –Robert, loving leader

Feel, Hear, See

Your Desire:
You must test feel against desire–what you know as real.

Your Voice:
You must be present and open to hear–as you stand in the confident middle.

Your Intent:
You must hold intent next to what you see–both reality and possibility.

A poem for your work: Words

"Walking in Peace" by Dan Roller

“Walking in Peace” by Dan Roller

Transition, one then another
dispensed on a soul
is to an individual
proof simply one is living.

−verse 1 of Transforming Trueness (Repose)

My voice of love, and its strength of encouragement, implore and equip me to share important things with you. At the forefront of such sharing is my wish for you to take the appropriate time for yourself, with associated energy focused on your service−the impact of your Trueness.

As I considered the deeper context to which this work has led me, other questions were opened for my consideration.

To what has this work led me? Where has this work led me?

My answers:
To what has this work led me?

To an appreciation, & consideration, of the potential of what I know.
To a holding that doesn’t require a possessive need to understand.
To an intersection of study and work in the center of Desire & Intent.
To my own simple Trueness.

Where has this work led me?

To a point where I try to do more and more in and from love.
Into a flow, a letting go practice into the flow, of what is, now.
To a place of intuitive trust: trusting a sequence to see the unfolding.
To a focus on Trueness, for others.

I love beautiful questions. I love also when another beautifully answers such a question for me, based on what she knows of me–my Trueness. From the influence of Bernadette Jiwa (TheStoryofTelling.com), I asked myself: Where does what matters to me intersect with what matters to the other?

Listening
This question was beautifully answered by Coach Judy when she said to me, “Your clients know you listen and really hear them. That’s the intersection.”

Listening is the intersection of what matters to me, and what matters to the individual. I must keep allowing this, for this is the deeper context and the deeper connection. Where else will it take me? We’ll see.

So, when you learn to speak of loving your work–a work you’ve been given–you now speak more about those for whom you do your work, individuals you’ve been given the privilege to love.

This is your impact.

A poem for your work: This is Your Service

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