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Transition, one then another
dispensed on a soul
is to an individual
proof simply one is living.

−verse 1 of Transforming Trueness (Repose)

My voice of love, and its strength of encouragement, implore and equip me to share important things with you. At the forefront of such sharing is my wish for you to take the appropriate time for yourself, with associated energy focused on your service−the impact of your Trueness.

As I considered the deeper context to which this work has led me, other questions were opened for my consideration.

To what has this work led me? Where has this work led me?

My answers:
To what has this work led me?

To an appreciation, & consideration, of the potential of what I know.
To a holding that doesn’t require a possessive need to understand.
To an intersection of study and work in the center of Desire & Intent.
To my own simple Trueness.

Where has this work led me?

To a point where I try to do more and more in and from love.
Into a flow, a letting go practice into the flow, of what is, now.
To a place of intuitive trust: trusting a sequence to see the unfolding.
To a focus on Trueness, for others.

I love beautiful questions. I love also when another beautifully answers such a question for me, based on what she knows of me–my Trueness. From the influence of Bernadette Jiwa (TheStoryofTelling.com), I asked myself: Where does what matters to me intersect with what matters to the other?

Listening
This question was beautifully answered by Coach Judy when she said to me, “Your clients know you listen and really hear them. That’s the intersection.”

Listening is the intersection of what matters to me, and what matters to the individual. I must keep allowing this, for this is the deeper context and the deeper connection. Where else will it take me? We’ll see.

So, when you learn to speak of loving your work–a work you’ve been given–you now speak more about those for whom you do your work, individuals you’ve been given the privilege to love.

This is your impact.

A poem for your work: This is Your Service

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While I wish I knew who taught it to me, I will be satisfied that I learned it: the habit of coming out from behind my desk and sitting with the individual needing to talk with me. It was amazing how much more real and meaningful conversations became without the barrier.

It is not just physical barriers, but the metaphorical desks and tables, that separate us from each other and from real conversation together. The biggest internal barrier to true dialogue is judgment. As we believe we already know what the other person is going to say, or where the conversation will go, we effectually end the conversation before it begins. This is a trust killer.

Dialogic trust begins in me as I put aside the judgments – small and large – that block hearing another human being. Removing judgment allows one to not only hear what is being said by another, it also presents one with the privilege of learning about, and understanding, the other person. When someone is listened to by you, when someone senses your effort to understand, he/she offers you their trust.

Without this mutual gift of trust, there is no dialogue. In his book, Dialogue and the Art of Thinking Together, William Isaacs defines dialogue as a conversation with a center, not sides. As we drop the barriers to honest connection and meaning with one another, trust begins to flow in the conversation.

The true blessing of dialogic trust is in discovering where the flow takes us.

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