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Suffering it may seem
and so suffering it is;
but impairing it is not. .

−verse 2 of Transforming Trueness (Repose)

Passion evokes passion.

We define passion by typically thinking of enthusiasm. However, the original definition of passion included suffering (the cost along the journey).

I was 25 years old, we had been married a bit over 3 years, and our daughter was 6 months old. I had just completed a very successful year as a life insurance agent, achieving the ‘rookie-of-the-year’ award, and other accolades in the territory of which I was a part. It was also the year my parents divorced after 30 years of marriage.

As if this was all not enough for one young man, I believed I was being “called” into the ministry. I made a decision that was to change everything. I applied to a theological seminary and was accepted. We sold our first house; I quit my selling job, we packed up, gathered our baby daughter, and headed toward that seminary.

In the process of all this, I had a disturbing realization that this was not the right time for this decision. We made it as far as my hometown, about three hours northeast of the seminary destination. I quickly became confused to the point of despair. We rented a place and decided to stay a while so I could figure out this confusing matter.

I can still feel the pain of my confusion all these years later. More than anything at the time, it seems I had gotten caught up in the reaction of others to my original thoughts of ministry. It felt good to have others be so ‘proud’ of me. Their communication of this pride, and my connection to what was being said, served ego more than my authenticity, I suppose. When I realized (or sensed) this, the agony was great.

Since consciously launching into this work that has chosen me, I’ve often looked back on that time. From what I see, I continue to be deeply grateful that we did not make it to the seminary campus. For you see, I firmly believe that I would not have been where this work could find me had I followed through on that decision.

The ensuing years, with a treasure of experience, prepared me for now; the release into the flow of who I am in what it is I really do.

Acting on my own Trueness brought me the privilege of the spirits I’m blessed to give to, and from whom I receive so much. Like me, your unique Desire & Intent is a tangible objective important to the balance called for and called out by your own words.

I’m loving what I do now because I know what I bring to the table, confident in my strengths and my authenticity. –Robert, loving leader

Feel, Hear, See

Your Desire:
You must test feel against desire–what you know as real.

Your Voice:
You must be present and open to hear–as you stand in the confident middle.

Your Intent:
You must hold intent next to what you see–both reality and possibility.

A poem for your work: Words

"Walking in Peace" by Dan Roller

“Walking in Peace” by Dan Roller

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In our first coaching session, he stated, “I’m not sure I’m passionate anymore.”

Unhelpful guidance, profusely proffered without permission, contains anything but meaning. So difficult it can be to let go of expectations, not letting go of any optimism for good, but the false assumptions we find clinging to us like soot from a toxic fire.

I suppose finding and knowing meaning depends on where one looks for it. Even more debilitating is if one no longer believes meaning is possible. It is a major shift when you finally grasp that meaning is created within the flow of it all, abundance available in the movement of internal to external and your Trueness active in the world.

The mystery is, in part, found in our own journey.

Less important is seeking any specific explanation of mystery and more important is opening to what is; experiencing the present so as to receive the meaning already there for you (the true you.)

In the first part of life experience, meaning comes to us through others. Fortunate I was to learn about deep friendship and unconditional love early on by knowing my grandmother as my closest friend. The simplicity of being in her presence, and her presence with me, schooled me in what I would need to know in the subsequent acts of life & living, opening me to mystery and my own journey with meaning.

With mystery and meaning it’s less about understanding and more about accepting what is already true within you. Trueness asks you to live and work in alignment with the source of who you are. At such source is a new confidence, a way of being in your unique brand of love, creating unconditional presence held firmly by flowing voice.

I am privileged to work with individuals who want to lead from such love, being, and presence. Letting go into desire’s drive and intent’s draw, I get to see these individuals open to the middle of meaning; a resonance unique to who they are.

The release, and resonance, of voice may flow through passion, presence, or purpose, but remember that your voice is gifted within and from your Trueness.

Meaning is the inhale/exhale of Trueness. Meaning is right in the middle of a living, breathing paradox. We find in the making of who we are that it takes experiences of all sorts; an unfolding of all things, working together, basically schooling us in the reality of everything belongs.

Mystic Memory

It was August, mile four,
one of my long walks.
Quiet, peaceful, simple,
thoughts fired into memories.

Feeling, from all those years ago,
the shade of grandparent trees,
porch time with Sallie and Henry.

The memories thick as fireflies
on such a Mississippi evening.

The red and white kitchen table,
the window behind the bench at that table.

The cupcakes,
oh my, the cupcakes!

I was safe, then,
so safe.

Still, there’s safety in the present,
but no one else must hold the pearl.

Yes, that was a tender time,
open and wide.

I was safe, because?
Because of love,
because of love, unconditional.

In such safety,
unconditionally,
every little thing
had meaning.

The source of meaning was from without,
graciously held by those showing me
the pearl of great price,
the Trueness within.

And from within,
now meaning flows.
Then, every little thing had meaning.
Now, up to me it is
to know meaning in
everything belongs.

–J. Brunson

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The Path (Being/Doing)

Now I know the path unfolds before me. Indeed it is not always clearly laid out. It is in being that I have the privilege of seeing, and in balanced doing I expend directed energy to clear the undergrowth.

Sometimes (actually often) I need the collegial love of another to remain both clear and energized to steadily walk the path. This is why I work at maintaining a community of colleagues. We support each other’s balance–our individual holding of creative tension.

Recent conversation in this community caused me to again pause and think about the place to which this work has led me.

The Creative Tension (Being/Doing)

Ric Gonzalez and I are enjoying creating our Podcasts. As we talked about the next one, my mind was on the next person we might engage in a conversation. Ric suggested we hold off scheduling the next third-party engagement and record some more together. The question however was where to take the conversation in the next Podcast.

In between the email exchange with Ric and the talk we had scheduled, I spoke with Mayra Porrata. Mayra is a colleague in this blessed community. As she and I talked–always deep, clear, and beautiful conversation–we got around to the place to which our respective work has led.

In Mayra’s view, my work has led me to the 3Ps on which Ric and I have been focused (Passion – Purpose – Presence). She is not wrong. Subsequently however, it occurred to me that the 3Ps are a How, not the What–to what this work has led. These conversations created the brilliant reminder of the What, the place–Trueness!

It’s that simple.

And the Why behind this What of Trueness is Encouragement. It is this what and why where our Podcasts must continue to focus for The Work of Trueness. How we will do this will come to us–it arrives through the energy committed to what & why.

“There you go.”
Settled.
Something I say
when I know
Being
has informed
Doing

Maybe along with “settled” should be “connected.” This is where being and doing work side-by-side, hand-in-hand, and we find ourselves in the ensuing flow of our best.

Acting on your own Trueness strengthens you in the space of Creative Tension; the balance of internal passion and external purpose. Passion drives us. Purpose draws us. The result is the creative tension of presence–balanced being/doing.

Locked into being only we blindly serve unbalanced emotion. Doing only is to be enslaved by too much thinking. We must hold the two and walk a creative path as we see genuine passion, purpose, and presence that free us for leading.

A Poem at WadingtheStream.com: It Comes Together

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Beginning several years back, I became separately fascinated with the desire of a leader and the intent of a leader. Over time, and a field of practice, my active fascination moved the plural of desire and intent into the singular focus of Desire & Intent.

In this singular and creative tension is an individual leader’s flow of passion to purpose to presence. The tense swirl of desire and intent hands you over to the pulse of purpose. In unified form, Desire & Intent brings purpose to a conscious and practical level.

I am still trying to understand all I know about the power held in one’s Desire & Intent. Here is what I know about my own—and yes, your—Desire & Intent. The Passion of my desire drives me. The Purpose of my intent draws me toward impact. And my Presence can then honor the flow of internal to external; as I now lead, influence, and serve from Trueness.

For the pulse of your purpose draws our trust to your brand of leadership love. The rhythm we experience is formed by your dedicated desire and actionable intent.

Regardless of your age, your Trueness is in tact. And regardless of the practical experience you may yet require, all that is needed to empower your authentic leadership is right there inside you … Now!

I know also where this practice with Desire & Intent has brought me. What I don’t know is where it will now take me. I suppose I’m simply along for the ride.

Bring your Desire & Intent to a spoken, conscious presence.

Then … enjoy the ride.

A Poem for your Desire & Intent

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I often use the phrase life & living in my writing to leaders. In part I think this is so because I’ve come to see that life is an unconscious emptiness unless one is living consciously.

To live consciously—out loud—is to live with and for Impact.

“If we devote ourselves to the life at hand, the rest will follow. For life, it seems, reveals itself through those willing to live. Anything else, no matter how beautiful, is just advertising.” —Mark Nepo, The Book of Awakening

While impact is technically an outcome—oftentimes expressed in virtuous terms—it is paradoxically also the beginning. And while I believe the flow is Passion to Purpose to Presence, the reality is, that once in rhythm, the flow becomes a stream where all of who you are is one.

This is Trueness moving in and for Impact.

The seed for any, and all, impact is passion. And passion, consciously freed, becomes the elemental braid holding together all you do.

In my own life & living, my passion developed my purpose. Living purposefully informed my presence. And now they are one in living consciously.

Passion allows me to have the vision.” —Ken, Coaching Client

Passion flows from the core of who you are, rhythmically engulfs you, and draws in life.

A poem for your Impact

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Communication does not achieve connection when the communicator has not made the effort to hold the paradox associated with Skill 2.

Skill 2 is Communication and Connection; number 2 of 7 skills I’ve found to be critical in leadership as we’ve fallen forward into the 21st Century. The 21st Century leader has become conscious of the power transferred through the energy of Desire & Intent. The power is in communication backed by purpose (the Why this leader does What she does). And such reinforced communication makes the connection intended.

Learning to hold & release comes about in that tense intersection of the desire that drives you and the intent that draws you out. Motivated by internal desire we are drawn to see more clearly the intent drawing us out. And while we want what is intended just as much as what is desired, we begin to realize the distance between desired reality and intended possibility. And thus a tension blasts into our consciousness. What a wonderful welcome into presence!

Passion evokes Passion.

Separating the internal energy of desire needed for communication clarity from the external intent of connection buries passion. In my work I continually find individual after individual whose passion has been buried in the avalanche of 21st Century busyness−a belief that we are too busy to spend proper time for self. If too busy for self, then one is inevitably too busy for those led−too distracted to truly absorb information, and so busy wiping away the swarm of data that listening is nonexistent.

“Working hard for something we don’t care about is called stress. Working hard for something we love is called passion.” −Simon Sinek

Your Desire & Intent is the energy for successfully exercising the skill of Communication and Connection. The melody of your passion is composed in Desire & Intent. Yes, communication is a skill that when properly applied creates connection. For communication and connection to come together and form this second 21st Century skill, you must become very attentive; placing Listening at the heart of articulation and association.

Skill 2The paradox of Skill 2 that must be held is with our desire to speak with credibility and the intent that our associated voice find resonance with the receivers. Your intended connection gives your desired communication a structure in which to come together as Communication and Connection, and subsequently deploy with impact.

This is holding the paradox of Skill 2, allowing credible articulation to overlap with associated reception. Confident openness flows from an authentic core; this is organic transparency valued in this 21st Century.

See post Shadow Strengths – Chapter Two (Desire & Intent)

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